I used to write a lot of letters, the on-paper kind that got mailed and arrived in envelopes days later. I was the guy looking soulful in the back of the coffee shop in the late '90s who looked like he was journaling, except I was actually writing epistles, so it was okay, I was cool and not a dork. No, really. I don't do it much anymore, the reasons for which are many and varied, but that's not really the point of this entry. Well, maybe it sort of is.
L. and I sometimes still write each other letters, though we have lived in the same space for years. Mine are usually writ when I am on a plane trip somewhere, she sometimes just writes whilst I assume she is doing prep work for school. It's an ongoing narrative--when we were dating but living on opposite sides of the coast the narrative was about dual meanings of writing each other--both the act of sending letters and the act of creating the other person out of words, a liter(al/ary) conjuring act (God, that was soooo post-modern I can hardly stand it). The other person isn't there, so you write them. The other returns the favor by writing you.
L. wrote me a letter a few weeks back positing that this is exactly what I am doing when blogging, is writing letters. Sam and Rebecca have pretty much the same dialog going that L. and I do, only it is posted for all to see, the acknowledgement that they are writing each other only tacit. I haven't written either of them an actual physical letter in years, but we've been trading acknowledgements back and forth for a month or two now, never directly acknowledging that this is what we're doing, but a dialog goes on nonetheless. It's like having a conversation with someone at the next table in a restaurant by overhearing the conversation they're having, and then responding by having a conversation with the person with whom you're actually sitting.
Did I have a point here? Did I even have a thesis that wasn't borrowed from my wife? Em...no. Apparently not.
1 comment:
Yes. Yes, indeed. The restaurant conversation is the perfect analogy for this, and it explains something for me that had been nagging at the back of my mind. It explains why I almost never comment here. I have to read the posts, think about them, and then, inevitably, my own blog posts are just responses (even if, often, they are utterly indirect).
I guess that's part of the blogging phenomenon, though, as most 'big' bloggers are always working with, through, against what other blogger say.
But I have to say: I had no idea getting into this that it would have the sort of 'intimacy' (don't have a better name for it) that it sometimes does.
And I'm not kidding: GO SEE SERENITY NOW!!!
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